Marthy,
I suggest that you start a new thread about this topic since this one is getting so long that it is hard to follow. There are many people who can help you out with your questions and I would love to help you myself.
I understand the frustrations behind cycling a tank and at times, it seems as if nothing is happening or not happening fast enough. There are quite a few 'tricks of the trade' to consider and I feel that you can get better input and information if you started your own thread. A good place to start would be to go over your current situation quickly and then ask some of your particular questions as well as your more vauge questions.
For now, I would agree with you, you dont need to spend any more time or money on buying fish to cycle your tank. The fishless cycling 'sticky' can be found using this link:
http://www.fishtankforums.com/5-fres...cycle-how.html
You can bookmark it or add it to your favorites (if using Internet Explorer) so that you can always refer back to it.
Keep your chin up and know that we are all here to help you out!